No Stress November

Monday, November 02, 2015

Now that Halloween is over, the holidays are officially on everyone's radar. Which also means the high stress of the season is now fully upon us. I thought I'd spend some time focusing on ways to de-stress over the next month because we all deserve a


There's so much pressure on all of us to make sure our holidays are 'perfect.' I hate that word 'perfect' because it's not achievable. No one has the perfect Thanksgiving or perfect Christmas - perfect only happens in Normal Rockwell paintings.

We're all busy pinning our favorite holiday ideas on Pinterest and that's great… but let's take a deep breath here. We can't do all of them. There are a few simple rules to remember with the holidays. Ready?
 Seriously, there are none. Who says you have a 15 pound turkey or gravy made from scratch? No one.

You need to make the holidays work for you and your life. Maybe you're not a fine China kind of girl, that's okay. Get some disposable plates - it's okay. If your Mother-in-Law gives you the side eye, tell her you'll use the fine dishes - as long as she is in charge of clean up.

I know it's hard letting go of some of our expectations, but it's okay… I've done it.

I love to cook - I really do. It's one of the things I find relaxing and fun, so I take a lot of pride in my Thanksgiving spread. It's like the super bowl of meals for me. But there was that year where I just couldn't do it. I had a 2 year old who I'd dragged to 5 million doctor appointments while trying to get pregnant with my second baby- and I'd just found out a few days before Thanksgiving that our in vitro had failed. No baby. I was sad, and I cried. and cried. and cried.

There was no way I could make a turkey. I could barely make it out of bed. And you know what my dad did? He went to the store and bought everything premade. EVERYTHING! He didn't ask - he just did it. And I love him for it. That was my Thanksgiving - my turkey was salty from the tears but it was good to not have to worry with it. The following year on Thanksgiving I had a one month old baby girl on my hip and was back on my cooking feet. We all have times when we need to call in the reinforcements. And it's okay.

Over the next few posts, I'm going to be sharing some strategies on making your November stress-free (okay… maybe less stressful would be more accurate).

We'll break down the list of things to do and tackle them one by one - and maybe I'll help you feel thankful for Thanksgiving this year. That's my goal.

xo

tonya



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5 comments

  1. oh, this is just what I needed to read! looking forward to your periscope today... hopefully I can jump on....

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  2. Thank you for sharing this! After the year I have had my mom is taking over the holidays. I had slowly started taking over and hosting every holiday in our new beautiful house about 3 years ago. I feel like im failing in some way by not putting on the good front and charging thru. But like you just said and reminded me...its okay to call in the reinforcements! Thank you so much!

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  3. Thank you for sharing this! After the year I have had my mom is taking over the holidays. I had slowly started taking over and hosting every holiday in our new beautiful house about 3 years ago. I feel like im failing in some way by not putting on the good front and charging thru. But like you just said and reminded me...its okay to call in the reinforcements! Thank you so much!

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story.I lost a baby too a few years ago and unfortunately was not able to to have a baby so I still struggle with the holidays. I look forward to reading your blogs and watching your periscope to comem

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  5. Last year, I was going through chemo during the holidays. I could barely make it out of bed so I certainly wouldn't be able to cook Thanksgiving dinner for about 15 people! I enlisted my husband to use my recipes to do it. I'm still getting sarcastic comments from family members about whether they should make everything or buy store-made stuff so he won't have to cook again. I had about 2 bites of everything and thought it tasted good! I can only deduce that it was bland because if not, I wouldn't have been able to eat it. Needless to say, this year, now that I'm back on my feet having kicked breast cancer to the curb, I'm feeling the pressure to up my game... but it's causing lots of stress. Thanks for the reminder that there are no rules & that this is a time for family to get together & enjoy each other's company, not just gawk over the spread. =)

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